I've realized I have changed the way I think and the tolerance I have for uncalled-for-bullshit is pretty much non excisting. There are a lot of misunderstandings, demands, hypocracy and it is getting quite boring tbh.
For me, keeping your word is one of the most important elements to keep harmony in a long distance relationship or in any relationship. Keeping your word builds trust and respect, and makes everything much easier, because if you says it, you know it's happening. For example, if he tells you he's going to see you asap and you start to make plans to meet up and it doesn't happen for some crappy reason. Or if he tells you he loves you ( especially if he says you are the love of his life ), make sure he shows it, because remember, words fly as fast as the wind. It really does.
Being away doesn't mean he should stop being romantic. Being away means his body is away, not his heart, his soul, his mind. Make sure he takes care of the little details that make you happy. It's just the little things that keep the glow on the relationship (from both sides). He should know that without me having to point it out ever so often. That gets boring too...quite quickly.
Mostly I look forward to the longer chats with my boyfriend on his breaks ( as he works very long shifts and for weeks at a time), but those calls still don’t make up for not having him next to me. It’s even worse when you get invited to an event, and you’re missing your “plus one.” Lucky I have friends that can step up.
I have the boys every other week so when they go to their dad's I get real lonely. Don't get me wrong sometimes alone time is bliss. I can dance around in my pink one-piece all day and just watch anything I want on TV. But I do get ants in my pants easily and I need to socialize, interact with other adults.
Recently I re-discovered SnapChat as I said in another post. And FaceTime is awesome too. It doesn't compare to having someone to snuggle with tho.
Even if you aren’t miles apart, you want to find the right balance of interaction, and spice up communication with surprises here and there. You want to handle challenges as a team and become closer through them.
That my dear friends is a challenge in itself. Distance doesn‘t kill love; doubts do. Therefore I give my best in choosing love over doubt. But it's not a one way street. It takes two to tango. There is also time difference. It's either your friend or your enemy. Timing is everything. Time is the boss.
I wish we could have skype dinners and drinks once in a while. Just like we are hanging out if we were together.
7 hours sucks as it's never the right 7 hours for us. Especially when one is a night owl and the other goes up at the crack of dawn.
Knowing how you want it is the easy part...sticking it out and dealing with the emotional drain that comes with it is the hard part. Makes you question if it's worth it or not.....
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