Had a rather interesting Skype call today. As usual we talked about random things such as whom should be allowed to have a drink at my friends new bar, negative attitude and shoving a drumstick up someone's ass. You know..general things one talks about from time to time.
We also spoke about more important matters such as keeping promises, having goals and losing a negative attitude. Also not being
that guy.
We both agreed that being that guy wasn't an option. And we also agreed upon that there is no problem and solving a very long over due promise that was broken not once but several times. And I'm trusting that this time it will be kept. Because this is the last time this will ever happen again.
It got me thinking...please bare with me if I ramble as usual, I will get to the point eventually.
What was the last promise you made to someone?
"Yes, honey, I'll take out the trash after dinner."
"I promise we'll give you a promotion in six months."
"I'll be there. I promise."
When you don't keep a promise to someone, it communicates to that person that you don't value him or her. You have chosen to put something else ahead of your commitment. Even when you break small promises, others learn that they cannot count on you.
You are not only communicating all of this to others, you are telling yourself that you don't value your own word.
You think it is okay to let someone down, to say something you don't mean, or to fail to follow through on something you said you would do. Not keeping a promise is the same as disrespecting yourself. And making the people you made the promise to not trust you and later on most likely not care for you. Or even worse...become indifferent.
Associating with a person who makes a lot of promises but consistently breaks them, or simply doesn't keep them, is challenging.
If their continued broken promises are making your life unpleasant and you feel used up, discarded, ignored, or just plain messed about, it is essential to deal with the promise breaker and then forgive them. Note that forgiving doesn't mean forgetting or letting them get away with it; it means that you reach a space of letting go and no longer allow this person to call the shots and ruin your chances at enjoying your life. Travel or dating or whatever it is you are lacking atm.
Telling lies is a cowardly way. It speaks to me not having enough guts, balls or whatever you want to call it to stand up and take responsibility. Most lies are some one trying to shirk the consequences of whatever action or inaction they have or haven’t done. This right here speaks volumes about your person, the state of your relationship and how much you trust your partner. Lying disrespects your partner, your life, your relationship and yourself.
One of the quickest ways to tell your partner they are not important is to break your promise to them.
Maybe you have kept your word and followed through, but your partner continues to break promises and leave you wondering if there's any way you can stay together.
It can be an upsetting situation. Ultimately, you get to decide whether or not you will stay in this relationship.
This is the bottom line.
If you don’t keep the promise you make, spoken or unspoken, the trust in your relationship is eventually eroded away. The most important promise you make is to your partner and your kids; they need to know that you will do what you say, in the little things so that they can trust you with the big things.
Wow.....that was a nice long post about what's going on in my head. And all this after a Skype chat.
My point of this post would be this.
I have faith and I trust it will be kept this time.
Don't make me look like an idiot for having it!!
