Unfortunately we all know someone that has been cheated on... maybe even yourself.
For the truly wronged, real satisfaction can only be found in one of two places.…absolute forgiveness or vindication. This is not a post about forgiveness.
Not enough sex
Remember the good old days when you could stay up forever fooling around? And before you knew it, sleep
was more important than sex. Well, women want to feel wanted. If you’re not
making her feel that way, she could seek it elsewhere. To keep that spark alive,
ask her out on date nights, send her provocative e-mails at lunch, and by all
means, don’t let life get in the way of kissing, cuddling and sex.
Being the bad girl
Just as men feel the urge to sow their wild oats, some women have an inner
sex kitten just waiting to be unleashed — and when the beast escapes from the
cage, look out. This frisky behavior usually rears its ugly head in response to
some sort of life change — major weight loss, new job, new friends, mid-life
crisis, etc. Keep the lines of communication open and she’ll be more likely to
talk to you about what’s going on instead of spilling her guts to a stranger in
the night.
Self-esteem
Sex can be an instant pick-me-up; a self-esteem booster that makes women feel
sexier, more beautiful and more loved. If your girlfriend has
self-esteem issues, it doesn’t mean she’s automatically going to cheat - but there are ways to make her feel
secure in the relationship that could help her from straying. Pay attention to
her, ask her questions and don’t hold back on compliments — a little flattery
goes a long way with women.
Revenge/payback for past wrongs
You might've cheated, but whether you blew your money in Vegas or
got caught in a big lie, you did break her trust (and, possibly, her heart). She
feels wounded and betrayed — and wants to hurt you the same way you hurt her. To
regain her trust, it’s not enough just to tell her you’re sorry; you have to
show her. Actions speak louder than words.
Lack of intimacy
You have it all: the house, the two-car garage and the two-and-a-half
bathrooms — at least on the outside. But inside, the relationship is lacking the
one thing women want most: intimacy. It’s not just sex that makes women feel
connected in a relationship; it’s touching, kissing, cuddling, and
communicating. Women crave it, and
she could seek it elsewhere if she’s not
getting it at home. To improve intimacy, spend quality time together, give her a
foot massage, make a romantic dinner for two — anything that will give her a
sense of unity and closeness.
Feeling neglected/ignored/underappreciated
Women wear many hats in a relationship — housekeeper, errand-runner, grocery
shopper, babysitter, etc. When she feels more like a maid than a
girlfriend, that’s when she could stray. The fact that you spend all your
time at work or playing Xbox gives her double reason to seek attention
elsewhere. No, you can’t quit your job, but you can thank her for all her
selfless deeds — and do your share around the house.
Your emotional withdrawal
Women are emotional beings. Not only do they need physical support, but they
also need emotional support. Once you retreat from the relationship, she sees it
as a sign that things are through — a breakup is inevitable. So, she’s not
really cheating, she’s moving on. To avoid this, be present in the relationship.
Yes, that means sharing your icky feelings, but it’s better than the
alternative, hey?
Bedroom boredom
Sex can become monotonous if you let it — the same position; the same
setting; the same person. An affair adds adventure and gets her adrenalin
flowing. To avoid routine, avoid repetition. Sweep her away for the weekend,
make out at the movies, kiss her for no reason at all… The unexpected adds
excitement.
Exit strategy
Instead of breaking up with you, she cheats on you. That way she doesn’t have
to deal with the broken relationship, which is much harder to fix. An affair is
the easy way out — or at least that’s how she sees it. That’s another reason
communication is key. Let her know that she can talk to you about anything and
that you love her enough to work through any bumps in the relationship road.
Revenge for your cheating
Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. Because you cheated, she wants to get
back at you and give you a dose of
your own medicine. Cheating is her vengeance,
her chance to even the playing field. No, you can’t undo your indiscretion, but
you can ask for her forgiveness, assure her it will never happen again and
go out of your way to help her and you get through this tough time.
Her cheating heart
When you add up all the reasons women cheat, it’s usually her heart (or her
ego) that needs healing, not her libido. Keep the lines of communication open,
be supportive and encouraging and work at keeping that spark ignited. In other
words:
Don’t give her a reason to stray.
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